Lawyer Jamila latif writes, I will marry a professional working class Man. Marrying a graduate at all cost has become a basic requirement for marriage as the contemporary Muslim tread cautiously. You wouldn’t know the north and south of an anxious potential husband or woman can go to seek his choice of partner, as no man is perfect, today some Muslims have come to the realization that marriage is more than commitment, such that -bring something to the table is mostly needed! Some where is the book of my bible stories when man is said to be cursed to till the land and take care of his family, today it seems women as a rib of Adam is to dig the hole to find gold for her suitor.We live in a competitive era such that many ready suitors claim no one is perfect and if he or she can bring something on the table ,case closed.
WAIT A MINUITE, THIS IS VERY SERIOUS! WHERE IS THE MORALS (said Imam Ali)At many Muslim event which has been characterized by professionals which is commendable, but will you choose profession over morals? Marriage will be sweet but there is the bile element we need to focus our teachings on? What is expected of a woman whether professional or non professional is the same.
There are women who are professionals and of good morals, which is commendable and highly to be emulate but what about those who never got the chance to further their education hmm MONKEY PLAY BY SIZE (abdul samed)
I need to marry a well educated working class lady who can complement me or even take care of my kids when am no more, these days a lady must contribute to the finances of the house, I can’t do that alone! Kabir, civil servant.My husband was so happy when he met me as a nurse, but later accuse me of not sleeping home at night, beside he is aware of our shift system. Zainab, nurse.
My name is doctor Aliyu Mohammed, a medical doctor at Abuja government hospital, at a point in time I became so worried about how married Muslim ladies spend the night on job leaving their husbands at home, though am not married but as an Islamic scholar, I need to plea on their behalf so that they run morning shift.but I personally will marry a lady who can create some work on her own due to my experience.
We have evidence of women who had quality informal education and today are supported by their God fearing husband, and I am no exception. Marie.
Looking at this as to how men rush to marry an educated person who is actively working sends an alarming sign to a generation yet to come, where everything has been diluted, MARRIAGE WITH IT SACREDNESS AND MORAL CONTENT HAS BEEN DEGRADED AND FEATHERED TO IT LIGHTEST DEGREE. There are a lot of choice people put on the table for marriage then a wise person will ask (what at all is this, after professionalism and formalism, common sense in marriage is lost!There is no bone of contention that marrying a graduate is bad but is marriage all about graduate and profession?
What about the decent lady who sell waakye by the street, the one who serve Hajia baameyi. Islamically we have been admonished by our Qur’an and the hadith of the prophet. before one marries it is required of a person to seek Four things 1.one can marry base on beauty or2. Wealth ,3. Household or lineage and 4 the Deen. of all these the fourth-THE DEEN IS THE MOST PREFERED?Some Muslims today have secularized the practice of Islam, sometimes the people we meet are actually test for our life and not all time that we can have our way. Remember man propose, God dispose.
Have we for second thought that our insatiable choices are what befallen us with calamities and difficulties beyond comprehension? As a practicing Muslim I believe that ultimately my deeds couple with the best action of my spouse should grant me paradise, what if my professional educated salary loaded spouse cant help me to achieve my ultimate goal?We shouldn’t be worried about what to eat or who contribute, beside after all our self acclaimed effort and hard work ,it is Allah who grant us the life and sustenance to live.
Education must be encouraged in all aspect of life both the qur’anic and worldly aspect. What we should be much concerned and lay much emphasis when it comes to choosing our spouse is how well you know the Quran and the teaching, meaning and interpretations, the performance of sacred bath, the human relation aspect, cleanliness and hard work. But can’t you for the sake of Allah marry someone who is less opportune in terms of education and marry the person and take him or her through formal education?Let us not loose our sense of beliefs, our reason for being Muslim and our existence as human beings.
Indeed, seeking of knowledge is obligation upon every Muslim, then
ignorance is no excuse! Someone might be professional but maybe ignorant of many things a non professional may know about! Choose wisely and please Allah not your fame! WHAT IF YOU GET ALL YOU WANT TO HAVE AND LOSE YOUR JANNAH? Kamil-Teacher.It is good if you marry a professional woman or a professional man but is that all about marriage!
As a concerned person the little I can add is NEVER TRADE GODFEARING AND EDUCATED PERSON FOR ANYTHING LESS BUT WHEN WE FIND GAP IN PEOPLES LIFE LET TRY AS MUCH AND FILL IT…there is blessing in that.
No comments:
Post a Comment